Jerad and I had a tough conversation with Ms. Susie on Monday. While they were working with the boys, I made a phone call to our genetics counselor as it has been about 9 weeks since Vaughn’s first blood draw and we were curious if any results had come back as Vaughn just doesn’t like to put his feet on the ground, when you lift him into a standing position, he pulls his knees up and if you can get his feet on the ground, then he stands on his toes. Jerad and I knew that one of the tests that were going to be run was a Creatine kinase test, checking out the structure of his muscles and last week Michelle and I had discussed calling to see if there was a diagnosis yet. Both boys just don’t like and I am tempted to even use the word hate, putting pressure on their arms and shoulders so that makes the desire to crawl non-existent. After speaking with our genetics counselor some of the results of the test had come back.
The first round of blood drawn was dedicated to the genetic testing. They started with 3 tests that are associated with the eyes. The doctors’ assumptions are that Vaughn has a syndrome called Lenz microphthalmia. These tests are looking for any mutations in single genes associated with lenz syndrome and microphthalmia (small or lazy eye). The first test was for “BCOR” and it came back normal. The SOX2 and OTX2 haven’t come back yet and we should know about those in May and June.
The second round of blood drawn was for the Creatine kinase (muscles), Thyroid, amino acids and urine acids. The results also were in regarding these tests and they were all NORMAL! This is great news but means that Jerad and I will now add to our prayer list having Vaughn go back under anesthesia for an MRI this summer. Both boys have developmental delays but Vaughn’s seem to be more significant. Vaughn’s developmental delays could reflect central nervous system maldevelopment including neuronal migration disorders. We had ultra sounds done in the NICU for both boys, on their brains to look for any brain bleeds and at that time there were none but the doctors would like to look again now that he is older and showing developmental delays behind even his corrected age.
My heart is grateful that so far, we don’t have a diagnosis but the fact remains that something is wrong. Vaughn’s torticollis is about the same and we continue to ask God for healing. I titled this blog, Walk by Faith because the hard conversation that took place after my phone call with genetics is that there is a very real possibility that the boys will need walkers. Imagine a walker for an elderly person and turn it around and that is the device the boys will need to walk. Asher really likes to stand at his table and play and so Ms. Susie and Jerad and I feel confident that Asher will graduate out of the walker and only need it for a short time as he is learning to walk. As for my super hero Vaughn, we will wait and see. We discussed the reality that he might need the walker for his first day of kindergarten.
Wait and See. I feel like Jerad and I live in a waiting room, waiting to get off oxygen, waiting for the neck brace, waiting for them to gain weight and catch up. Waiting for the helmets to work, waiting for God to be God and remove the torticollis from the list of syndromes that label Vaughn. To See. Waiting to see if the glasses will help Vaughn’s brain communicate to his left eye that it is able to work and see. I asked God for a word, something to hold on to when I feel frustrated and overwhelmed and I love Him so much for His faithfulness as He didn’t make me WAIT for His response. He said, “Walk by Faith”.
I knew right away what He meant, if I walk in the faith that I know and believe in, He will take care of the physical walk.
I turned to the Bible to see how many scriptures reference the word “walk” was in and there are many! The concordance says that this is the definition of walk “to advance by moving the feet; a person’s usual mode of behavior; see STEP, WAY”. A person’s usual mode of behavior…… my behavior is my communication with Vaughn and Asher. Jerad and I have the choice to choose joy in this trial and see a walker as their independence not a handicap. Our physical therapy goal for the boys was to walk by age 2. I am going to change that goal to crawl by 2 and even if we don’t crawl, walking is the main objective anyway. Our spiritual goal for the boys is to teach and train up, independent God loving and God fearing gentleman and if one of the ways they learn this is by using a walker, then my attitude will be full of faith that the walkers will only be used for a season. We serve a big God and trusting Him every STEP of the WAY is my heart’s desire. Thank you Jesus for reminding me yet again, who is in control of our lives. As we camp out in this waiting room, I am going to decorate it to my liking, teach the boys to share and tell them the stories of Noah and Moses. I am going to label our waiting room, Psalm 37 as the theme of this poem is about trusting in the Lord and waiting patiently for Him to act. I will fill this waiting room with laughter, songs and make it a productive time because really, life is about learning to be patient and we are blessed to be able to use these moments to develop our character and grow as a family. This family will walk by faith, even if it looks a little different for each of us.
